You will have your fair share
A lot of times in life, we tend to blame others when something bad happens to us or when we lose an opportunity. We tend to say things like:
“If it wasn’t for him/her, that would not have happened to me.”
“I completely deserved the chance. They were being unfair.”
“If it wasn’t for them, my life would not have been so miserable.”
We can stay in this state of constant complaining because at the end of the day, we are surrounded by people who have wronged us. Even if they are away from us, those hurtful words and the looks they gave us may stay with us for life. We feel this constant need to get back at them. We feel the need to get revenge. We feel the need to see them suffer just like we did. And these feelings are not pleasant. They eat away at us and further worsen the wounds that we already have from the loss we suffered.
In the midst of your chaotic feelings, how will you feel if you realized that you actually don’t have to deal with those people? That you don’t actually have to call out on these people for the good you lost? That you actually have only One Who can remove all of your problems altogether?
With this in mind, read the ayah below:
وَإِن يَمْسَسْكَ اللَّهُ بِضُرٍّ فَلَا كَاشِفَ لَهُ إِلَّا هُوَ ۖ وَإِن يُرِدْكَ بِخَيْرٍ فَلَا رَادَّ لِفَضْلِهِ ۚ يُصِيبُ بِهِ مَن يَشَاءُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ ۚ وَهُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
“And if Allah should touch you with adversity, there is no remover of it except Him; and if He intends for you good, then there is no repeller of His bounty. He causes it to reach whom He wills of His servants. And He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” Surah Yunus, 107
In this ayah, Allah is telling us that it was Him all along. That it will always be Him, Who Will be in control of the adversities that touch us and the good that happens to us. We don’t need to play the blame game with those who have hurt us to get over that pain. Rather, we need to call out to the One Who is in complete control of our destiny. No one can hurt us except by His Will and if He intends good for us, nobody can take away that good for us.
So as muslims, we don’t need to feel insecure about others stealing our happiness. Because at the end of the day, Allah allows everything to happen in our lives. He would not have allowed the bad thing to happen to us without a wisdom. Neither does He shower us with His blessings without a purpose.
Thus He causes it to reach whomever He Wills of His servants. Because at the end of the day, He is the One Who Knows His servants best. Subhaanallah!
Note: By no means am I saying that we are not allowed to seek help or justice when we are wronged. In Islam, we are asked to stop the oppressors no matter what. The situations highlighted in this post are cases where there is nothing more you can do about it but your wounds still go back to those memories. And also situations where you have done everything you can, and people are still looking down on you and talking behind your back.
